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How “Top 3” Daily To-do Lists Changed My Productivity

February 25, 2019
Increased Productivity with a Top 3 to-do list

I am the queen of to-do lists. THE queen. My brain is an ancient and dusty library of scrolls and scrolls of to-do lists. But I realized that for all the items on my list, only a fraction were actually getting ticked off. When was the last time you actually completed 10 separate things on… Read More How “Top 3” Daily To-do Lists Changed My Productivity

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“Your first thought is what you’ve been traine “Your first thought is what you’ve been trained to think by society. Your second thought is what you actually believe.” 

This quote that a friend shared with me completely reshaped and put into perspective a lot of the guilt and shame I've felt in the past. 

We are not in control of all of our thoughts and it's incredibly difficult to undo what society and/or family has taught us for most of our lives BUT that follow-up thought - that “wait, maybe I'm wrong about this”  or “wait, maybe they feel like this” or “wait, maybe I was too harsh” is what really defines who we are. 

If I'm being honest, judgments of other people jump into my head all the time. As soon as I make a judgment, I feel ashamed of myself and wonder why I'm still having such judgy thoughts when I want to support others.  Am I a bad person? Am I incapable of being kind and supportive?

We have this very funny idea that our minds are always right, that they never play tricks on us. Your unconscious thoughts of judgment about yourself, about other women, are more often incorrect than correct. 

Society has trained women to pit themselves against each other. We have been sizing each other up and competing since we got our first bras. It's really freaking hard to undo those years of thinking there was not enough room for all of us to be our full selves.

In fact, it's impossible to completely remove any and all judgments - but it IS possible to not be defined by them and to GROW through and past them. 

While I still feel frustrated when judgmental thoughts jump into my head - I now take comfort in knowing that I choose to believe my second thought over my first and that determines the kind of person I will become and the thoughts I'll have in the future.

Do you ever struggle with this? What do you remind yourself of when you find yourself not being as supportive as you could be?
Do I have an #instagramaesthetic? Mmm. Definite Do I have an #instagramaesthetic?

Mmm. Definitely not. 

A feed aesthetic and a niche are the two things that EVERY big influencer/blogger/content creator tells you that you NEED to have. I have neither. 

I have tried to do both and have failed miserably because it is just. not. me. If you ask any of my friends, my variety of interests is probably as deep as the ocean. The thing that I'm currently "into" is ALWAYS changing. 

When I come on here and share with you, I treat it like I'm talking to my closest friends - sharing my current interests, having conversations about thoughts and emotions (which are ALWAYS changing). 

I LOVE to talk about clothes and skincare, but I also love the news, travel, cooking, organizing, reading, making art. I am not a niche. 

So, moral of the story is - I'm going to post photos that I love EVEN IF they don't "match my aesthetic." I'm not going to put the same orangey filter that makes every girl look racially ambiguous on all of my photos to make them match. 

I know YOU have so many more interests and things to share beyond talking about my skincare routine or my favorite place to shop - so let's do both. 

Tell me something you're totally obsessed with that most of your friends aren't into/don't get ⬇ ⬇ ⬇
This week has left me feeling.... like a shadow. This week has left me feeling.... like a shadow. 

For the past year, a LOT of really crazy and unprecedented stuff has been happening and we have all just continued with our lives, trying to return to normal as quickly as possible even though we've LITERALLY NEVER EXPERIENCED THIS BEFORE. 

This past year has been a LOT of days of me getting lost in my emotions and feeling overwhelmed, sad, lost, lonely, and exhausted. I keep questioning WHY I'm struggling as if the whole world isn't getting turned around every other week. 

I seem to oscillate between days of calm and assuredness and days where my mind feels blank, unfocused, fuzzy, numb, heavy. 

I keep trying to find ways to fix it with good routines, self-care, etc. as if this is something I can just "be better" than. 

Most days when I step back from Instagram, it's because I'm feeling a little low and don't have the extra energy to spare on here. 

I don't have any real solutions, I'm just here to say that if you're feeling this way too, you are FAR from alone. Tell me in the comments how you're feeling today, good or bad ❤️
I think this should be the new posting trend for 2 I think this should be the new posting trend for 2021.... Leave all that toxic ish behind👏🏼 (shoutout @hannahlozanophoto for inspiring me to post my own list 🤩) What are you leaving in 2020????
2021 is my year for forgetting the rules exist... 2021 is my year for forgetting the rules exist...

Instead of setting resolutions and planning how I’m going to improve myself this year, I’m focusing on letting go of expectations. Your expectations, my friends and family’s expectation, my expectations. 

This is my year of joy, of creativity, of exploring, of freedom. 

It’s been a long time since I fully trusted myself over others. It’s been a long time since I’ve sat with myself and really listened. Slowly,
I’ve been inching back towards myself, crawling back into my own heart and holding my own hand. 

This is the year I commit to myself again. 

Not commit to making myself perfect. Not commit to doing what I “should” be at this age. Not commit to making myself who anyone else thinks I should be. 

If you need me, I’ll be here, holding my own hand. 

Sending love, to my self. Past, present, and future. 

To my heart.

And to you.
And that’s all, folks ! And that’s all, folks !
Don’t mind me, just posting Halloween pics while Don’t mind me, just posting Halloween pics while ignoring my anxiety about the election 🥰🥰
Just a little Vampire’s Kiss 💋 Showing you Just a little Vampire’s Kiss 💋 

Showing you guys how to make 2 super easy Halloween cocktails in a new IGTV on my profile as part of ongoing Halloween content this week! Go give it a watch and tell me which cocktail you’re going to make first!

Which of these pics is your fav?!
Got really friendly with my neighborhood ghost las Got really friendly with my neighborhood ghost last night 👻

Did a SUPER fun halloween shoot last night and have tons that I want to share with you guys! 

Comment below if you’re excited for Halloween content and let me know if you like the light pink or the hot pink better
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